Marriage: The Ultimate Scam or Just a Lifetime of Glorified Roommating?

Marriage. It's the ultimate promise, the fairy tale ending where two souls unite in eternal love and happily ever after. But what if, beneath the vows and the wedding cake, it's all a bit of a scam? A charming facade where partners eventually morph from lovers into problems, and love, well… love quietly slips out the back door, leaving behind a monotonous cycle of dinner dates that feel more like weekly check-ins with your accountant.

Monogamy’s Cruel Joke: When Love Becomes a To-Do List

Ah, the honeymoon phase! When you can’t keep your hands off each other, and even their weird obsession with folding socks a certain way is adorable. But fast forward a few years, and suddenly those quirks aren’t so cute anymore. In fact, they're downright irritating. What happened? Did love die, or did it just… fade into the background, drowned out by the noise of daily life, bills, and endless decisions about what's for dinner?

The truth is, monogamy can feel like a bad joke played on us by nature. Love starts out as this grand adventure, but over time it settles into a pattern—predictable, safe, and let’s be honest, a little boring. The passion fades, the excitement dulls, and you're left wondering if this is what "forever" really looks like: a life where your heart skips a beat not because of romance, but because your partner forgot to pick up milk. Again.

When Your Partner Becomes the Villain in Your Story

Remember when you thought your partner was the answer to all your problems? They understood you, completed you, and together you could conquer the world! But now, it seems like they're the source of your problems. That person who once made your heart race now makes your blood boil with their constant nitpicking or their annoying habits you can't seem to escape. The very traits you once found endearing now drive you up the wall.

Suddenly, the one who was supposed to be your rock is now the pebble in your shoe, and you’re left wondering how you went from romantic dinner dates to silent meals in front of the TV. Is this what marriage is supposed to be, or is it just a cleverly disguised con?

The Temptation of Going Solo: Freedom or Isolation?

You might start thinking, "Wouldn't it be easier to just be alone?" Imagine it: complete control over your life, no one else to consider when making plans, and the freedom to eat cereal for dinner without judgment. Going solo sounds like the perfect antidote to the monotony of married life.

But before you rush to trade in your wedding ring for a life of solitude, consider this: living alone can get lonely. Sure, you might achieve more, climb higher in your career, and pursue passions that make you feel alive. But who will you celebrate with when you reach those milestones? Who will be there to pick you up when life knocks you down? Going solo might be the road to personal success, but it’s also a path that can lead to isolation.

The Great Escape: Why Women Are Checking Out

Interestingly, research shows that women are more likely than men to initiate divorce. Why? Maybe it's because women are quicker to recognize when the fairy tale has turned into a horror story. They're not willing to stick around in a marriage that feels more like a life sentence than a partnership.

But here's where it gets juicy: despite popular belief, women are also catching up when it comes to infidelity. That’s right, the stereotype of the cheating husband is being challenged by research showing that women are stepping out too, perhaps because they’re searching for the excitement and passion that’s gone missing from their marriage. So much for "till death do us part," right?

Conclusion: Is Forever Overrated?

So, is marriage really the forever kind of love we’ve been sold? Or is it a carefully packaged illusion that eventually leaves us disillusioned? Maybe the trick isn’t in finding "the one" but in finding a balance between loving someone else and loving yourself.

Whether you’re single, married, or somewhere in between, it’s worth asking: are we chasing a dream that doesn’t exist, or can we redefine what love and partnership look like in the modern world? After all, maybe forever isn’t the goal—maybe it’s just about finding someone who makes the journey a little more fun. 

written by,

Basilio Karani Miringu